A Strong Supportive Woman Is Behind Every Successful Man
Not talent…
Not ability…
Not determination …
…nothing is more common than unsuccessful men, with talent and ability, having women behind them who are not supporting, encouraging, and promoting them. Nothing will keep a man from being successful more than a critical, judgmental and un-supportive wife.
The Lie
For some reason, many women have come to believe that to be happy and successful, they must have a career, make money and be self-sufficient. They have come to believe that men do not need to have any part in this equation. In fact, some have even come to believe that men stand in the way of their happiness and success. Well, time and research have shown this to be a total fallacy. There is another equation that some have tried and found to work. Let me explain.
The Truth
Here is the recipe. You take one woman who wants to be happy and feel successful. She finds a man that has talents and abilities that she appreciates, a personality she finds attractive and who has a love for her. This results in her respecting him and wanting to support or get behind him. As she does whatever she can to make him successful, this man, in turn, praises her for what she is doing to make him successful. And the result? This woman enjoys far more self worth, happiness and sense of fulfillment than any personal success she could achieve alone. There is a side benefit, also, because, with a successful husband, she is able to enjoy having children and caring for them herself. It is a huge win-win for all involved.
And guess what? God intended for the relationship between a man and a woman to look like this. So not only does this kind of relationship make the couple happy but their lives are pleasing to God. What could be better than this?
By the way, this principle works in every aspect of life, not just in the marriage relationship. When women assume a supporting role rather than a leadership role, everyone benefits. Some look down on the supporting role as being inferior to the leadership role, but those in leadership would be complete failures without supporters behind them. Just think of an army. How much success would it have if there were only leaders and no soldiers, support crew and peripheral staff (clerical, cooks, medical teams, etc.)? The army would not function at all. How successful would a business be if all it had was leadership and no supporting staff? In fact, the argument could be made that those in supporting roles are really more important than those at the top. At times, battles have still been won, even though leadership was lost.
Discord in Heaven
Going back to the beginning, Lucifer had been trusted and given the honor of holding a high position among the angels who were all supporting “cast” in God’s kingdom. In fact, he was given the highest support position that God could give him. But he became dissatisfied with that very important position and decided that he deserved the position of his Creator – the One who gave him life. But what happened to him then and what do we know about his ultimate end? He lost everything he ever had then, and he has nothing to hope for now, except his demise. All for what?
Because Satan wanted more than he was given and thereby lost all he had, he now hates happiness, joyfulness, contentedness and success in all its forms. He has worked to create in us this same spirit of unrest and dissatisfaction, doubting that God's way does work for our good. Satan never gives up on pushing his lie that we can be happy and successful without following God’s way. He’s a master at deception and was able to convince one third of the angels of Heaven that God didn't know what He was doing; that God’s way had to be challenged by his superior ideas. Where did this get him?
Let’s not be deceived or waver in our desire to pursue success God’s way. It will ultimately prepare us to enter God’s kingdom where there is perfect order and happiness.
Arlen lives in College Place, Washington with his wife Sherry. Arlen is a handyman (Computer Technician, Electronic Technician, Auto-mechanic, electrician, Plumbing, Woodworking).